A Satirical Fairy Tail
Once upon a time, in a land not so far away, a friendly (although at times not so much) neighborhood infertile, to whom we’ll inconspicuously refer as Sarah Chamberlin, was perusing the IF blogosphere. This led her to an article in a major publication on the lifetime scars of infertility. Excited to see her tribe front and center in mainstream social media, she clicked and read. Chamberlin was at first satisfied by a worthwhile article, however her spirits rapidly dampened as she stared at the
vast cesspool of humanity comment section ahead of her.
The questioning of infertility being a disease was Sarah’s first abysmal sighting.
Yes, those who are normally busy discussing whether or not major weather occurrences result from acts of angry Gods while being heavily entrenched in questioning whether planet earth is REALLY circumferential took a break from their usual intellect to grace the masses by publicly rejecting the notion of infertility as a disease.
Having no patience for a viewpoint fit all too well for a discussion in circa 1702, Chamberlin shuffled on.
With the only other option being to feel and openly embrace the emotional hardships of a stranger, the folks over at genius central began debating the meaning of the word survivor instead. Also included in their bastian of productivity was an argument over whether someone who had gone through something they knew nothing about was worthy of the title.
Sources report they followed their intense debate on the word survivor with a sharp divide over the difference between sweetened vs unsweetened iced tea, and finished off with convincing arguments on which direction toilet paper rolls should be hung.
One thing they would not debate, however, was their usefulness to society, as they were quite certain they had that one entirely sewn up.
Although her heart was dropping a bit, Chamberlin knew she had to prepare for the inevitable shit storm all infertiles worth their salt know is coming – yes – the “why don’t you just adopt?” brigade was methodically assembling their uninformed ranks by the second.
“Don’t you care about all of the children needing homes in the world” led the way, and was flanked by “how dare you want a healthy child that shares your genetics” as blame directed squarely at infertiles for all of the unwanted children FERTILE people create stridently brought up the rear.
Sarah smirked as the opposition pounded back effectively with heavy artillery. Basking in her momentary wave of bitter infertile satisfaction, she read on.
Notably absent from the mix were parents who had received the grand gift and privilege of easy child acquisition going to bat for those struggle.
While it is considered socially acceptable in other arenas of life to be mindful of those who have less, such as in the realms of food, health and loved ones, sources observe this ethic quizzically does not apply to the forum of human reproduction.
When one gets the short end of the stick in this department, “fuck you, you’re on your own” remains the acceptable standard of human compassion, researchers have noted.
However. Amid this field of desolation, there were precious flickers of resonance. Like liquid gold the “I’m an infertility survivor too” comments and the “I feel you” assurances and the “I’ve been there and I know the truth” proclamations slithered through the fecal matter of judgement and indifference with a subtle yet unrelenting defiance.
The bloggers and other members of the IF community, with their different stories and varying view – points in tow came together to raise their voices, and they all lived truthfully ever
after upward. In spite of it all.
And the moral of the story is:
Don’t take haters too seriously, they are not typically the smartest ones in the pack (getting upset totally allowed and normal though!!).
Our blogger voices sound good together – we all should join them in chorus more often.
“The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.”
And hopefully compassion……and people knowing infertility is a disease…….actually, what I really hope is that it bends towards people who know nothing about adoption zipping it. Ahh, deep thoughts.
And thanks to all those who came before us too!